According to most 90 Day Fiance fans who watch the show, the relationship between Usman and Lisa is an abusive one. Lisa recently used the N-word for Usman. He was offended but recently, the Nigerian celeb did something unexpected. He apologized for Lisa for using such foul language.
While fans have slammed Lisa for berating Usman, they have not spared the victim this time. Most of the time, it’s Lisa controlling or abusing Usman. This time when she used the N-word, fans called her out as well as Usman for taking the abuse. Let’s take a detailed look into Usman and Lisa’s situation.
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Usman stated that he had been receiving a lot of DMs about what Lisa called him and that she wasn’t right about it. So, he has issued an apology to all his fans and African Americans who were offended by Lisa’s remarks. He also promised that things are going to be better. Moreover, the 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days alum wished his fans to stay safe.
Now, one might think that Usman might apologize for taking the abusive behavior and tolerating it for such a long time. However, that’s not the case here at all. Usman is apologizing because Lisa uttered the abuse. As absurd as it looks, the victim here is sorry for the abuser’s behavior! According to psychology, this is one of the common signs that people in an abusive relationship show.
90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days; Are Usman and Lisa Bound In a Trauma Bond?
Sometimes, in toxic relationships, the victims offer excuses to friends and family members trying to minimize the behavior of the toxic person. This behavior of trying to make excuses for violating behaviors is called a trauma bond.
According to Antioch University of Seattle’s Dr. Kirk Honda pointed out that Lisa didn’t want Usman’s friends hanging out with them when she comes. According to Dr. kirk, this was a major red flag. He described that trying to separate someone from their support system is one of the classic abusive tactics.
90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days; Lisa and Usman’s Relationship Dynamics
Lisa and Usman have always had a strained relationship. Usman revealed that he didn’t love her and is marrying Lisa only because she told him that if he didn’t, she would end her life. Well, we don’t really need to tell how that sounds!
Plus, Lisa has always been a skeptic about Usman interacting with other women. This behavior seemed beyond a little possessiveness. Recently, the news about Lisa harassing Usman’s ex Amber has also resurfaced. Just because this is a woman Usman used to find attractive, Lisa came snooping around her inbox and left thereat messages.
Do you think Usman and Lisa are in an abusive relationship? Let us know what you think is the reason behind Usman apologizing for Lisa’s behavior.